[KINDLE] All Things Consoled A Daughter's Memoir BY Elizabeth Hay

  • Hardcover
  • 272
  • All Things Consoled A Daughter's Memoir
  • Elizabeth Hay
  • English
  • 22 January 2020
  • 9780771039737

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All Things Consoled A Daughter's Memoir

characters All Things Consoled A Daughter's Memoir characters All Things Consoled A Daughter's Memoir 109 E each startling characters in their own right her mother is a true skinflint who would rather serve up wormy soup twice than throw away an ancient packet of perfectly good mix; her father is a proud and well mannered man with a temper that can be explosive All Things Consoled is a startlingly beautiful memoir that addresses the exuisite agony of family the unstoppable force of dementia and the inevitability of agi. 35 STARS This was the first time I had read a book by Canadian author Elizabeth Hay In All Things Consoled she writes about her complicated relationship with her parents growing up as well as the changing dynamic between herself and her parents as they aged Hay s writing is frank especially when she discusses her turbulent childhood and the complicated relationship she had with her parents Through the ups and downs her love for her parents is the focus of the book and there are some emotional scenes There were some issues which were hard to read and others were emotional so readers who can relate to dealing with aging parents may want to keep the Kleenex handy I couldn t relate as much to Hay s experiences and that may have influenced my feelings for the book The vast majority of reviewers have raved about this book and while I feel odd rating someone s life experiences I didn t feel as connected to the book as I had hopedDisclaimer My sincere thanks to the publisher for my complimentary copy of this book in exchange for my honest review The Truth Against the World packet of Making Him Sweat Taking Him Down perfectly good mix; her father is a Judaism As a Civilization Toward a Reconstruction of American Jewish Life proud and well mannered man with a temper that can be explosive All Things Consoled is a startlingly beautiful memoir that addresses the exuisite agony of family the unstoppable force of dementia and the inevitability of agi. 35 STARS This was the first time I had read a book by Canadian author Elizabeth Hay In All Things Consoled she writes about her complicated relationship with her Badger's Parting Gifts parents growing up as well as the changing dynamic between herself and her Ostende 1936 Sommer der Freundschaft parents as they aged Hay s writing is frank especially when she discusses her turbulent childhood and the complicated relationship she had with her Die Entwicklung des Sozialismus von der Utopie zur Wissenschaft parents Through the ups and downs her love for her Ist dieses Buch ansteckend? Erste Hilfe für Hypochonder parents is the focus of the book and there are some emotional scenes There were some issues which were hard to read and others were emotional so readers who can relate to dealing with aging Magic Platina parents may want to keep the Kleenex handy I couldn t relate as much to Hay s experiences and that may have influenced my feelings for the book The vast majority of reviewers have raved about this book and while I feel odd rating someone s life experiences I didn t feel as connected to the book as I had hopedDisclaimer My sincere thanks to the Enemy on the Euphrates publisher for my complimentary copy of this book in exchange for my honest review

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characters All Things Consoled A Daughter's Memoir characters All Things Consoled A Daughter's Memoir 109 Elizabeth Hay one of Canada's most beloved novelists has written a poignant complex and hugely resonant memoir about the shift she experienced between being her parents' daughter to their guardian and caregiverAs the daughter takes charge and the writer takes notes her mother and father are like two legendary icebergs floating south They melt into the ocean of partial painful inconsistent and funny stories that a f. I was in dangerous personal territory in fraught border country in which my parents were sliding into neediness and I was rising in power yet losing my own life All Things Consoled is esteemed Canadian novelist Elizabeth Hay s account of taking on the role as her parents primary family contact as they reached their final years Complicating this always demanding function is the difficult relationship that Hay had with her parents and as she recounts incidents from throughout her life to illustrate lingering resentments or character uirks Hay deftly assembles a work that serves as a moving memoir of herself and her family On the one hand Hay does a nice job of capturing the challenges of the lingering end of life years in which both of her suffering parents wished for the Dutch passport and on the other I was glad to see that she had enough time with both of them to come to a place of peace and forgiveness With Hay s thoughtful and polished prose this was a satisfying read a fascinating and fitting tribute to complex people At the lake inside the dark cabin that was steeped in my parents lives I felt permeated by their presence even though they were absent That a peaceful place should be so full of tension that their influence should be so potent that I could not prevent myself from taking on certain of their characteristics and that these same characteristics expanded inside me until I was bloated with impatience hard with gassy vile severity Hay s father Gordon was an educator he went from teacher to principal to professor over his career and despite having been raised a peace loving uaker he had a hair trigger and could snap violently with both his students and his own children Hay s mother Jean was a penny pinching homemaker not above serving moldy or wormy food who discovered painting in middle age and who always took her husband s side over her children Not only did Elizabeth resent that her mother refused to see how much her father s constant teasing and painful finger jabs bothered her He s only ribbing you lighten up but Jean could never see how her own often unvoiced but suspected criticism burdened her daughter Hay did a wonderful job of illustrating the lifelong family dynamics that were looming over this relationship as she finally convinced her parents to leave the family home and move into care a six minute walk from her own house in another city How hurtful must it have been for Elizabeth to discover that among the possessions that her parents left behind for disposal were her own seven novels all personally inscribed to the parents who never once told her they were proud of her When a friend once asked Hay s father if he was proud of what his daughter has accomplished he testily responded Well is she proud of me Her mother buried one of her novels in the yard out of shameThe issue that finally forced the relocation was Hay s mother s descent into dementia and at the same time her father s physical inability to deal with his wife s declining mental and physical states As a lover of words and phrasing Hay delighted in and collected her mother s increasingly peculiar ways of expressing herself concluding Her turns of phrase rather confirmed my view that poetry issues from the holes in our heads that whatever faculty produces the startling contractions and coinages and leaps in logic that we call poetry is also available at an unconscious and uncontrollable level to someone suffering from dementia Now as my own mother in law has Alzheimer s without ever once coming out with a poetic construction perhaps Jean s words came from the same creative spring as her painting talent rather than pointing to something universal as Hay suggests but it was this mental uirk that led to the book s title I got her to sit on the chesterfield and sat down beside her and put my arms around her again and she was like an ancient child weeping lost and weeping Where am I I told her where she was Where did you think you were Oh I m in many places Where I am keeps changing We walked to the elevator and she said I ve got some of my wits But not all And then there was the day she said I ve had a good life all things consoled Hay is honest about her own bitterness and the longheld resentments that she refused to let go of and she doesn t whitewash how taxing these final years with her parents nearby were for her As her three siblings all lived far away convincing her parents to move to Ottawa did invite the burden suarely onto her own shoulders but as Hay writes Yes I volunteered to take it on but there was never a moment when I didn t wish to be let off the hook And that s something important for me to remember as my kind hearted sister in law has taken on the care of her parents including the Mom with Alzheimer s within a shared home Yet still there was an opportunity for a melting of the icewaters Hay eventually discovered that just starting off a visit with a kiss to her father s bald head was enough to soften him as though all he ever wanted was forgiveness for his failings Even so as Gordon lay dying and Hay s brother leaned in to assure him that the kids would take good care of Mom when he was gone their father roared back to life with But what about me Ultimately because of their time together in those last years Hay developed a stronger relationship with each of her parents and grew to appreciate what they meant to each other Will I go to my grave thinking my mother should have married another man Someone attuned to the creative life who could have cooked for himself and put in his own eye drops Who didn t fly off the handle at the drop of a hat Not any Not after seeing how woven into each other body and soul the two of them were What must have been a therapeutic experience for Elizabeth Hay to write makes for an engaging and enlightening read I am enlarged by having read her story